My Love of Coaching

In the arena of intimacy coaching and sex therapy, there are those who simply guide, and then there are those who truly embrace the complicated design of human connection. As an intimacy coach and sex therapist, I proudly belong with those who embrace; finding true joy and fulfillment in the rich stories my clients share.

The sad stories, trauma filled stories, happy and excited stories, romance and love, all of them. These stories are the mirrors to our souls, revealing vulnerabilities, aspirations, and a desire for connection. I cherish the opportunity to be a part of their journey, helping them navigate through the highs and lows of life and relationships.

One of my greatest passions as an intimacy coach is imparting the skills of emotional regulation and effective communication. The differences between men and women have always intrigued me. The intricate ways in which we perceive and interact with the world, stemming from these differences, are truly mind-boggling. God has a sense of humor, making us need each other and desire each other yet be so vastly different we dance a dance of the delightful struggle for cooperation.

I love watching couples improve in all areas of intimacy. Bridging the gap in Sexual expression, openness and bridging the gap in sex drive. These tools form the foundation upon which resilient and thriving relationships are built. It's fascinating to witness the transformation that occurs when individuals and couples learn to navigate their emotional landscapes with ease. Helping couples rediscover and reimagine their connection is a privilege that I hold dear.

I love teaching meditation to couples. Especially Eros meditation and Love Thy self meditation. Not to mention OM. Seeing love blossom anew as couples engage in these practices is a confirmation of the transformative power of holistic approaches to intimacy.

I love teaching my sensual classes. Through teaching and taking some on my own, I’m reminded that the pursuit of connection and pleasure is a constant evolution. That the journey of intimacy is a lifelong exploration.

While I guide others on their journey of connection, I too have my own path. Regardless of our roles as guides, coaches, or therapists, we are all seekers of companionship, love, and the life changing power of intimacy. I seek a partner to share these experiences with a romantic partner of my own. Someone who shares the same passion and genuine adoration I have of imparting this knowledge on others.

In this ever-evolving adventure, my passion is ignited anew with every story shared, every lesson taught, and every couple transformed. Each story is a chapter, each lesson a revelation, and each connection a masterpiece waiting to be painted. And as I walk this path with my clients, I am humbled and inspired, knowing that the journey is as much theirs as it is mine.

“Desire! That’s the one secret of every man’s career. Not education. Not being born with hidden talents. Desire.”

- Johnny Carson

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