Self Worth

I recently had a conversation with a friend about recognizing and valuing one's worth, and charging what one truly deserves. She emphasized that I undervalue myself and should be asking for more than what I currently charge. While I appreciate her perspective, I find myself in a debate about knowing my own value. Contrary to popular belief, I believe I do understand my worth, especially considering the work I've been dedicated to over the past months.

I've spent time delving into books and participating in various coaching classes over the past few years. Interestingly, many of the concepts being discussed are ones I've been advocating for quite some time. For instance, I've long been advising people to close their eyes, connect with their bodily sensations, and identify their emotions. It's been my belief that emotions act as a lens through which we perceive the world around us. Additionally, I've consistently highlighted how our immediate reactions to stimuli typically last only about 90 seconds. Any prolonged distress arises from our continuous rumination over the initial trigger.

Breathwork, meditation, journaling, and intention setting have all been practices that I teach. I've not only preached these practices but have diligently incorporated them into my own life. These principles have formed the core of my journey. While this is the case, I know I could spend more time on these practices. It's this very path that led me to explore concepts similar to those developed by OneTaste, which is what initially drew me to their teachings.

My journey has allowed me to recognize that I am now, an expert in my field. This realization struck me today, as I collected my thoughts. Addressing a particular concern: it's not that I'm unaware of my worth; I am. However, there are certain factors that influence my perspective. Growing up with financial constraints has left a substantial mark, making it challenging for me to decline opportunities or requests. More importantly, the thought of someone with potential to do the work and grow being unable to work with me due to financial constraints troubles me.

Truly, my struggle is not about acknowledging my worth; rather, it's a balance between compassion and the financial reality. I've internalized the belief that worth isn't solely about monetary value. My understanding of worth encompasses more than financial transactions. It's about compassion, connection, and making a positive impact.

The conversation took an interesting turn when discussing ego. I sometimes struggle with perceiving myself as superior to others. I recognize my contributions to this space and the people impacted but find it challenging to equate that with basic human value. This internal conflict influences me when setting fees for my services.

It's worth noting that my goal isn't to charge excessively or undercut my clients. There's a practicality to consider. Charging $200 or $250 per hour might not be feasible for every individual or project. This creates an internal dilemma, especially when considering hiring assistants or investing in events and classes. I desire to find a balance between fair compensation and the practicality of financial decisions.

Ultimately, my expertise lies in a complex field that involves the intricate interplay of the person's mind, their body, their emotions. The impact of my work on individuals is profound, and I understand the responsibility that comes with it. While I may still be learning and growing, I've come to realize that I am indeed an expert in this unique and multifaceted space.