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As a relationship therapist and coach, I often encounter stories from both men and women who feel victimized by their partners. While some cases involve genuine harm, many examples revolve around self-imposed sacrifices—acts made without the other person even requesting them. I frequently hear about unspoken truths and unexpressed desires. Women often use the word “sacrifice”, claiming they’ve given up so much for their partners. However, when asked whether their partner explicitly requested these sacrifices, they usually admit that no such request was made. In reality, their partners didn’t deny their desires; the women denied themselves. They chose to: Reduce contact with friends to prioritize family time. Forego careers or education due to perceived limitations. Avoid playing favorite songs because of their partner’s preferences. Why do we interpret someone's dislike of our choices as a mandate to change our entire lives? Some women inadvertently limit themselves based on others' preferences and then blame those others. Here’s the truth; no one forces you to change–you made that choice. As mothers, we must indeed need to be loving, attentive, nurturing, and supportive. However, this does not mean sacrificing our individuality. Our music, clothing, and entertainment preferences are a part of who we are. Let’s reject the notion that being a good parent requires suppressing our truest selves.

As we celebrate International Women's Day, it's the perfect time to reflect on the incredible strength, resilience, and beauty that resides within each and every one of us. Today, we honor the women who came before us, paving the way for our rights and freedoms, and we celebrate the women who stand beside us, forging paths of empowerment and inspiration. In the spirit of this momentous occasion, I invite you to embark on a journey of self-discovery and empowerment – a journey that will awaken your inner goddess and unleash the boundless power that lies within you. Too often, we find ourselves stifled by societal expectations and the pressures of everyday life. We suppress our desires, silence our voices, and dim our light in fear of judgment or rejection. But now, my dear sisters, it's time to reclaim our power and embrace our true selves unapologetically. In our world of endless distractions and noise, it's easy to lose sight of who we are and what we truly desire. But deep within each of us lies a sacred wellspring of wisdom and intuition – our inner goddess – waiting to be awakened and heard. On April 17th, I will begin my 12-week online women's course. Here, we will work together to learn to speak your deepest desires, embrace your sensuality, and reclaim your power with courage and grace. So, my dear sisters, I urge you to seize this moment and embrace the goddess within you. Let your light shine brightly and your voice be heard. Together, we can create a world where every woman feels empowered to live her truth and express her desires freely. Join me on this empowering journey and awaken the goddess within. Together, we will rise.

The Misconception of Love: Why Demanding Change from Your Partner is Not the Answer

“In order to play full out in life, we must be willing to take responsibility for ourselves and our lives”.

Patience is a virtue; virtue is a grace. - Jacob Rees-Mogg When it comes to relationships, it is crucial to extend grace not only to our partners but also to ourselves. No one is perfect, and it's unreasonable to expect our loved ones to read our minds. The truth is, there will be times when our needs clash, and that is not inherently wrong; it's simply a fact of human nature. In these challenging moments, showing grace is the key to fostering a lasting relationship. Equally important is the concept of showing up for our partners in the way we desire them to show up for us. Many individuals conduct themselves one way while expecting a great deal more from their partners, but this hypocrisy is detrimental to the health of a relationship. It's a ploy for control, creating a false sense of safety. This unhealthy dynamic can only be resolved by taking the lead and demonstrating respect and love first. True love and respect are earned through our actions and the grace we extend, not through manipulation or false control. By embracing this principle, we create an environment of trust, authenticity, and mutual understanding. Celebrate the imperfections, communicate openly, and foster an unwavering commitment to grace and respect. Together, let us strive to nurture lasting love in our relationships.

"The spirit is the true self. The spirit, the will to win, and the will to excel are the things that endure." - Marcus Tullius Cicero

"When we allow ourselves to be in our pleasure we allow for our desires to manifest." -Charity

“When you come out of the storm, you won’t be the same person who walked in. That’s what this storm’s all about.” —Haruki Murakami

“Ultimately, it is the desire, not the desired, that we love.”