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Loving this life. Loving myself.

Charity Danker • Jan 03, 2024

"The spirit is the true self. The spirit, the will to win, and the will to excel are the things that endure."

-Marcus Tullius Cicero

Happy New Year, everyone! As I write this, I find myself cherishing the last moments of my transformative weekend at Eros Monastery. It truly was a gift to myself, a way to usher in the new year with openness, vulnerability, and shared interests among kindred spirits. The experience has been nothing short of perfect. I have felt deeply nurtured, seen, and encouraged to embrace my truest self.


Last night's OM experience was like a surge of energy invigorating every fiber of my being. It started as a buzzing sensation, slowly building up from my toes and down from the crown of my head. As it met in my heart chakra, it transformed into a pulsation that resonated within me. Suddenly, with a burst of sharp, yet fleeting, pricking pain, my heart chakra burst open. A wave of energy shot out from my fingertips, toes, breath, eyes streaming tears, and even my root chakra. In that moment, my entire body was enveloped in vibrant vibrations, and I experienced unimaginable bliss. This sensation lingered within me for several minutes, flooding me with happiness, joy, love, and hope.



As I sit here, reminiscing about this profound event, I can still feel a whisper of those sensations in my body. It is the exquisite feeling of being alive and well, reminding me of the incredible power of truly experiencing life through our bodies.


I am filled with deep gratitude for this life, for the OM practice, and most importantly, for the love I have discovered for myself. This new year holds endless possibilities, and I am ready to continue this journey of self-acceptance, vulnerability, and meaningful connections. May we all embrace the beauty of being true to ourselves and find the courage to love ourselves unconditionally.


Loving life. Loving OM. Loving myself.

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